Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Please participate in this poll!

I would like to have a poll of YOUR thoughts and experiences about how life and aging make NICE people become BAD and CRUEL, and on the other hand, how BAD people become NICE when they become old.

Well,this is my first emotional-personal post. My heart is so broken. The ones that I loved them while growing up just turn to me with hatred and meanness. Yes,something has happened recently or it is better to say that I have heard some unexpected news. One day, I may share it here with you but not today. I need to know YOUR thoughts and experiences about this matter.

Here is the explanation. I know some people who were very nice, kind-hearted, and simple people when they were young. While they were young, they were sad that they are not SMART enough as other BAD and CRUEL guys are to achieve their goals. They gradually became CRUEL and BAD. This is what I see in my loved ones. I can not hate them or hurt them just because of how good they used to be, although I know that they have changed now. Oh! it is just so sad. So sad!

Thank you for your participation!

12 comments:

Tigress said...

to tell the truth it is difficult to comment. My experience is mostly with people that are so good they always are taken advantage of and the ones that are bad...well, they continue to thrive although undeservedly. so, I wish those good people became a bit more street-savvy and that the bad ones got screwed for once, but evidently my wishing powers are not as good as I hope ;)

Anonymous said...

Hi Sarah,

This is hard. There are certainly people who lose their sweetness as they get older. I see it with my son's classmates who are sweet kids, but not happy to be different from the popular crowd. So then they change their ways and become almost cruel to anyone who wants them as they were.

I think that life circumstances can play a big part as well. If you are never rewarded, emotionally or any other way, for being a good person, perhaps that can sway you to forgo your path and choose a more negative way of doing things?

I am often disappointed by people, but more in the way that many are just thoughtless, rather than bad. Thoughtless with family, with children, with friends. Hurting without intending to hurt.

OK, that's probably enough for a comment :-)

Anonymous said...

Well, what I can say is dividing people into GOOD and BAD is meaningfull in elementary school blackboards but is irrelevant in real adult life.
A better classification is people with 'principles' and those without. If a person has firm internalized principles that come from his own understanding of the world (not external sources) then we can be sure that his behaviour and sense of responsibility will be consistent throughout his life.

Princess, Auntie, and Mummy said...

Hi Trigress,

I am happy that you have faced mostly good people in your life than bad ones. Thanks for the comment.

God bless you!

Princess, Auntie, and Mummy said...

Hi Kate,

You mentioned to an important point when you said "I think that life circumstances can play a big part as well". That's why I feel sad for those people while I am hurt by them. Thanks for the comment.

God bless you,

Princess, Auntie, and Mummy said...

Hi Rodman,

Great point! "If a person has firm internalized principles that come from his own understanding of the world (not external sources) then we can be sure that his behaviour and sense of responsibility will be consistent throughout his life.
" I am learning and learning from you guys. Thanks for the comment.

God bless you,

Me7of11 said...

Hi Princess. I read your comment on Kate's blog and thought I'd come by.

I think that as children, we are taught that if you do right in life, you will be justly rewarded. As some of us get older, we feel we have not been justly rewarded. We start to compare ourselves to theres and think, "I work harder than he does, why does he get more?" Eventually it wears a person down and makes him (or her) bitter.

Another idea is that was we grow older, the people that ground us move away, die, or we loose contact with them. We find ourselves increasingly alone and seemingly without purpose. That too could make a person bitter.

I am sorry for your hurt and I admire your quest to understand it.

Good Luck!

Arsh said...

Oh it happens. People change, and I agree some good people turn into mean ones! Why, and what for who knows.
But as you said, because of the past, they are not easy to forget and they are still loved.

The Spring Breeze said...

it's very difficult to comment on such a matter! I'm sure I have changed for the worse from when I was younger... I trust people less, and try not to be too optimistic about the "rewards" of doing things that I consider "good". I hope I'm still not too cruel or mean, but I definitely see feel the change. I agree with the rest of the comments that people change because they are not rewarded for doing the right things, so why should they care?

Princess, Auntie, and Mummy said...

Hi Me7of11,

Thanks for coming over! I am happy that I find people like you who like to discuss about the problems we face in daily life as it is the first step in improving our lives. And yes, how sad it is to changing to a bad, cruel person when you age. One should live in a way that people regret losing them when they die, not before their death.

Blessings,
Sarah

Princess, Auntie, and Mummy said...

Hi Arsh,

Yes, you are right and I till love them but everytime they hurt me it makes me remember all the good memories from them in my childhood and brings tears to my eys.
Thanks for the comment.

Stay blessed,
Sarah

Princess, Auntie, and Mummy said...

Hi Saba,

To me you do not definitely sound cruel or mean, but a careful, mature person.

I think being informed of what others have gone through in their lives which affected them to be bad and cruel, gives us an advantage. We can be more prepared for the life and decide in advance if we would like to be loyal to our values, no matter what.

Thank you for your comment.

Stay blessed,
Sarah